On Deck Writing Begins!

I first heard about On Deck on the Clubhouse app. Based on that, I called it Linkedin meets The League. It wasn’t recommended. But I kept hearing about it. Have you received an unprompted refund just because the service was meh? Tom, a writing partner at On Deck, sent me an unprompted refund for a randomContinue reading “On Deck Writing Begins!”

How To Validate

Cultivating your superpowers. Being able to validate is a superpower. It makes people feel warm and fuzzy inside. “The deepest principle in human nature is the craving to be appreciated.”-William James. If craving appreciation is the deepest, the foundation beneath that is the craving for acknowledgment. We cannot appreciate something without first acknowledging it. WhatContinue reading “How To Validate”

The Rules Of Toxic Manhood

Break the rules by building healthy masculinity. You do not talk about manhood. You do not talk about manhood. If someone tears up or cries, their manhood is over. Only two seconds per hug. One alpha at a time. No feelings, no homo. Manhood like this will go on until men wake up. If thisContinue reading “The Rules Of Toxic Manhood”

To Say, Or Not To Say, That Isn’t The Question

The question is not whether to speak up, but how. On playing small in a big world. Often in relationships of all kinds, we wonder whether or not to speak up. This is the wrong way to think. You should speak up. You shouldn’t debate whether or not to speak up. Something gave you aContinue reading “To Say, Or Not To Say, That Isn’t The Question”

The Simplest Way To Calm Yourself Down

We all freak out sometimes. It’s part of being human. Something or someone scares us. Sometimes it’s a weird sound, other times it’s our own thoughts. We can quickly go from zero to full-blown panic. When I freak out, my cognitive abilities tank. Everything is a trap. When I’m in creative mode, the possibilities areContinue reading “The Simplest Way To Calm Yourself Down”

Why You Shouldn’t Ghost

👻👻👻👻👻👻👻👻👻👻👻👻👻👻👻👻👻👻👻👻👻👻👻👻👻👻👻👻👻👻👻👻👻 First, let’s define ghosting– its essence is acting out of integrity. It’s disappearing, not showing up. Ghosting is saying one thing, and doing another. It’s lying. The fact that I can use the word “ghost” as a verb and have it be widely understood is sad. This wasn’t a thing 30 years ago. IfContinue reading “Why You Shouldn’t Ghost”

You Have A Duty To Complain, Here’s Why

That’s right, you have a moral obligation to complain. You don’t have to complain all the time. But you should complain some of the time. Before digging into when to complain or when to hold back, we need to take a few steps back and understand why we get upset, and what our menu optionsContinue reading “You Have A Duty To Complain, Here’s Why”

An Open Letter To HR On Behalf Of All Employees 📩

Putting the HUMAN into Human Resources 🙍 Image source In my career I have worked for a large public university, health care, Big Tech, Chick-Fil-A, consulting, and neighborly lawn mowing. While it may come as no surprise to anyone who has ever applied for a job, the HR experiences at most of these organizations haveContinue reading “An Open Letter To HR On Behalf Of All Employees 📩”

How To Be Friends With Your Family

Everyone is trying to connect. Whatever behavior manifests, remember that. Assume best intentions and own impact- this goes for yourself and them. No, you don’t know better. No, they don’t know better. If people knew better, they would do better, so be gentle. Practice listening rather than practicing fixing. Compliment often, and genuinely. Acknowledge theContinue reading “How To Be Friends With Your Family”

29 Things from 29 Years

This list comprises 29 tidbits I’ve accumulated over my life. I don’t always recall where I learned what I learned. This list is in no particular order. First, they ignore you. Then they laugh at you. Then they fight you, then you win. It’s more important to be kind than clever. When its all over,Continue reading “29 Things from 29 Years”